Monday, October 05, 2009

Making Friends

Something good happened last Friday. We went to our second gathering of homeschool kids at the local park. This was my third time around some of the mothers and I'm starting to feel really comfortable with them--they are slowly getting to know Clayton as well. As we stood there visiting, I noticed all of the boys were sitting together on the soccer field. Clayton was sitting with me as usual, but I really wanted him to start branching out and being with the boys instead of the grown ups. But I also didn't know if they would be comfortable with him. So I asked the other mothers and they talked to their boys and reminded them of Clayton's needs. The boys were more than willing to include Clayton in their group (especially since he had brought his toy truck!). They walked with me to the van to get his chair, and from then on, they were on their own! Clayton said he did NOT want me to go, so I left them to themselves. It was wonderful watching them walk around the park, playing with the truck, and actually talking to Clayton. He, of course, got bossy and started telling them which way to go!

Making friends. Participating in real play. Building independence. This is what we wanted for him last year in preschool. But instead, he got to sit with the teachers all day long while the other kids did regular kid things. His two "friends" at school were actually his teachers. Still burns me up to think about it.

It's just another confirmation that homeschooling was the right choice for us. We're moving at Clayton's pace and we're meeting people who are welcoming us with open arms, no matter what the issues are that we bring to the table.

8 comments:

Patti H said...

this is such a happy post Ashley. Glad that you now know you made the right choice!!

Stephanie said...

Clayton will also be good for those other kids. I remember at my elementary school a boy like Clayton named Brandon. He did stuff with our class from time to time, like music, and the handicapped kids at my school went to recess with the rest of us. What great lessons for those of us without disabilities to get to help play with and take care of those kids with special needs.

Melanie said...

That is so great! For both Clayton and the other boys too. I wish I could get up enough nerve to do the homeschooling. Its not that I'm not happy with his school, but I feel I could teach him more one on one. The only area I think I would be lacking in is getting to know other people and being able to branch out. I don't know many people and I'm not the type to approach people...

anyways I'm so happy for you guys!

TMI Tara said...

It is heart-warming to know that Clayton is having these experiences. I'm so glad the other children were so welcoming and accepting -- Clayton deserves true friendship and fun playtime! Way to go, Mom! You're doing the best things for Clayton =)

Katy said...

Wonderful to hear it! I worry about these things so much.

Jenkins said...

That is wonderful.
Wonderful to be with those other children.
Wonderful to know that homeschooling is the best choice for your family.

Wherever HE Leads We'll Go said...

I am so glad that homeschooling is working out really well. Sounds like a great day for you and Clayton!

Cheri Pryor said...

What a great thing to read...and I can't imagine how full your heart was to see your son participating in life like you envisioned. Yay for Clayton!!!